self-confidence, i’m realizing, is a lot deeper than just thinking i’m beautiful and being free in who i am. it also includes being confident in my decisions and trusting myself to be committed to the things i want to do. to step outside of my comfort zone and assure myself that i will be okay in doing so. this kind of self-confidence will help me see the success i want to see.
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Elite: a show in which all male characters are 100% shippable with each other, and that is some quality tea.
I think we all agree Omar and Ander are vocal goals, because obviously irrefutably indisputably every word they pronounce sounds sexy.
Ps send help, I’m overdosing on this show.
Lowkey admiring Lu’s unabashed frankness about being a greedy bitch; lowkey perplexed how she’s that intelligent and self-aware but fails to realise how fucked up it is to reach such lengths only to validate oneself.
“I want to see you. I want to be with. kiss you; finish what we started” is my fucking aesthetic.
Allow yourself to be a beginner. No one starts off being excellent.
My perfectionist arse scoffs in disdain.
no offense but your struggle is valid no matter how many people have it worse than you
Omar x Ander (2)

Omar and Ander are the two characters I’m most interested in from Elite, and I’ve taken this opportunity to write about Omar, whom I believe to be struggling with a form of internalised homophobia. Hear me out.
Omar does not despise or fear his sexuality per se, but is rather carefully tailoring his life in order to fit it in. He likes men, and acknowledges it as such by seeking hookups online, but preferably with strangers; people you can easily fulfil your desire with, but with whom a relationship is easily liable to termination. That’s why he panics when it’s Ander (a person who has a tangible connection to him through Christian), and then subsequently tries to resist him and alienate him, but is pulled back to him everytime.
He does many things that are forbidden in Islam, but none that daunt him as much as being gay, because in Islam homosexuality is a grievous sin–you don’t err only against yourself or others, but against the “nature you were created to”. As such we’re taught; all is pardonable by society (this is mainly a societal creation under the guise of religion, that has no relation to the teachings of Islam) as long as a male’s masculinity is intact (the non-representative belief that homosexuality “effeminates” men, is still prevalent and commonplace in Muslim communities, at least where I’m from)
What I’m getting at is that culturally and religiously one is warned most sternly against homosexuality–it’s demonised, demoralised, and debased to an unimaginable degree; as such, even if a Muslim individual who grew up in a practicing family was “open-minded” enough to argue themselves out of the sinful nature of it, it’s very difficult for them to eradicate the stigma, shame, and disgust associated with it. It’s a nature vs nurture thing; hence, the doubts and internalised homophobia. Nurture and upbringing largely dictate and delineate parts of one’s personality, and most people imbibe many values from their parents and the community they live in; therefore, one actively– almost subconsciously tries to keep off things that are morally/religiously denounced, and forbidden. I think it’s noteworthy how this isn’t restricted to Omar’s native Muslim upbringing, but also to his circle of friends; we’re in an age in which we’re finally overcoming, or attempting to overcome some of the prejudiced, biased, and destructive beliefs we’ve had passed down to us, but there’s still a hesitance LGBTQ youth feel everywhere; hence “the closet”, and “coming out”. This is applicable to Omar too; even with his close friends–whom we assume to be more open-minded and accepting than his parents–he fears to be an anomaly amongst them.
Now if we examine Omar’s character, initially we suppose he isn’t averted to his homosexuality at all, but is rather accepting of it; he actively seeks partners on a dating/hookup app; and when he engages physically with Ander in ep 2, there’s no lack of fervour or want. That’s one side to it though–the fact that Omar minimises and reduces himself to a constitution of physical urges, with a mentality of “appease and push aside”, as well as his refusal to participate in a relationship are other sides to it
The fear and stigma are so imposing that he outright tells Ander out of dread that word might get out that they’re never going to be together, and wonders where he even got the idea from.
Omar forbids himself the simple happiness that one is naturally entitled to, and marginalises an important part of his life, because he believes that a hint of his “indiscretions” might utterly shatter his overbearing father (which actually nearly happens). In the end, even if your convictions and ideals are at discord with your parents’ you obviously can’t help but love them, and can’t bear to disappoint them; especially if you know how much they’ve sacrificed for you. This drive of maintaining a resemblance to the ideal, or rather the normal, lurks at the fringes of Omar’s relationship with Ander, permitting him at times to indulge himself this irresistible pull they have; other times it overtakes the picture completely–a reminder of what’s at stake.
Ander perceives this. He understands that Omar actually wants him, and if not for his circumstances, he’d want to be with him. That’s why Ander pursues him–pursues him relentlessly, and with such tender passion.
Ander fell for him, and he for Ander; Omar realises that but tries to mitigate it; the more he tries to resist, the more Ander affectionately seeks him out–gently, patiently, lovingly, with an unflinching honesty, that nearly annihilates all his inhibitions.
Omar is eventually helpless against Ander’s unwavering feelings. He allows himself to love and be loved, and it’s Ander’s gentle persuasion that precipitated this change.
Two characters appear for the first time on a show, with a palpable chemistry, and a few (erotic)* glances exchanged.
Me: GODMOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN, OTHERWISE IS UTTERLY UNACCEPTABLE; YOU’VE BEEN WARNED!!!!!!
*intuitive overinterpretation
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